Dear CoupleDoingIt,I’m a man of average penis size… At least that’s what I used to think, before my wife and I entered the swinging lifestyle! Now I feel like I’m on the smaller side of the bell curve. You may think I’m writing because I feel ashamed or insecure about my “average” size, but that’s not at all the case. My wife thinks I’m perfect and I’ve never had any complaints from any other girls about my performance. But I am confused… Every scientific poll I’ve ever read states that the average size of a penis is between 5.5 to 6.5 inches, yet from a few swinging experiences that we’ve had and the profile photos we’ve seen, it seems like many of the men have a inch or two more than that. Have the science journals been lying to me all this time? What’s going on?!
Sincerely,Average Joe
Dear Average Joe,
Science hasn’t lied to you. I’m guessing that pre-lifestyle, there were probably not a lot of situations where you regularly found yourself in the presence of several naked vanilla men with erections. So you’re not really getting an accurate random sampling of penises.
The swinger lifestyle attracts men with cock confidence, or “cockfidence” as I like to call it. A man who has cockfidence is any man who is comfortable and secure with the equipment he has, no matter what size it is. Any man who is able to make the transition from vanilla to swinger is likely to be cockfident in himself. But because so many men in our world base their sexual self-worth on their penis size, men who discover that they are larger than average are more likely to experience an inflated sense of cockfidence.
For this reason I’d surmise that you are probably more likely to run across some larger than average equipment in the swinger lifestyle more frequently than you would in the vanilla world. However, keep in mind that photos you see on swinger sites can really skew public perception. Those with enormous members are far more likely to post photos of their junk than the average guy.
Frankly, I think it’s a shame that when entertaining the idea of swinging, so many men ask themselves, “Do I have a big enough dick for that?”… Because the correct answer is always YES!!!
2 comments
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February 23, 2011 at 11:03 am (UTC -7)
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Bob says:
November 6, 2011 at 2:07 pm (UTC -7)
I am also “average” at 6″. Also have noticed that this is definitely small at the nude swing resorts and have read that the reason is, simply, the guys with big ones have the cockfidence to go there and show off while we average guys are perceived as tiny by the women who only see men in these situations. It must be said, the main reason many men base their perception of sexual competence on their penis size is insecurity. But what is their insecurity based on? What women say and how they react. How they talk to each other, and to men during foreplay, and in evaluating the experience after. Having had a lot of experience at these places, and swing clubs, I can tell you, the first thing out of almost any woman’s mouth when the touching starts is a comment on size. If men evaluated pussies in everything from real situations to popular media, the most common heard expression in America today would no longer be “Size Matters” or “Bigger IS Better” but “Squeeze Matters” and “Tighter is Better”. What if men always asked, on dating sites, about pussy stats? What if women were reduced to whether they had a small enough pussy to make sex feel good to a man, instead of whether he was big enough to “fill me up?” I never fail to satisfy a woman whose pussy is the right size for me. Too bad we average men can’t see that from across the swimming pool and pre-judge women as they do us.